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If your child were being bullied, would you advise her to:

Ignore and avoid the bully 10% 19 votes
Fight back 38% 69 votes
Confront the bully in a friendly manner, in a safe setting 47% 86 votes
Run 3% 6 votes
180 total votes

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Yah. Confront the bully. That'll work. Just ask the Jews how well that worked with the Germans. Or the Chinese (bullied severely by Japan, for those history-challenged among you). How well is it working with Iran?

JohnLocke (anonymous profile)
March 31, 2012 at 6:45 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I think you ignored the "in a safe setting" phrase there, JL.

mtndriver (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 9:35 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I don't recall "safe setting" be part of the answer choice until now.. anyways, define safe setting? What is the child supposed to say "I know you irrationally hate me but here's a candy bar have a nice day"?

Ken_Volok (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 11:11 a.m. (Suggest removal)

To be graphic: When was the last time these adults who now are jumping on the anti-bullying bandwagon had someone's clenched fist smashed into the side of their face?

Here's how it works: You confront the bully with such an adult present. The bully gives lip service to never bothering you again, then when no adults are around. the bully beats the crap out of you for snitching on him/her because in today's progressive education system these same enlightened (sarcasm intentional) adults don't believe in removing the bullies from the school because after all, the schools lose money when they lose students.

Also, as I've been saying: Only now that and identifiably oppressed demographic (gay kids) are making the news for being harassed are these adults doing anything about this. If one is straight, or doesn't belong to any other "minority" group, these adults couldn't care less and remained dead silent until now.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 3:27 p.m. (Suggest removal)

No such thing as a safe place when a bully is involved. Only one effective way to deal with a bully - beat the crap out of him or her. Repeatedly if necessary. I know, I'm a horrible person, but c'mon folks, the kumbaya approach just doesn't work.

JohnLocke (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 4:47 p.m. (Suggest removal)

JohnLocke: The "kumbaya" feel-good approach is the very reason so many bullies exist. They grow up with no fear of consequences for their behavior and those sociel engineers who have caused this continue to dig our culture in deeper with their well-meaning but misguided approach.

Maybe these pontificating adults should be transformed into a place and time where THEY are being bullied because they are A: The wrong color; B: A nerd; C: They simply look or act different; or D: Any other reason that they don't fit in. They would learn that when you turn in a bully the bully (and the bully's friends) will harrass you even worse for doing so.

Even back in the '70's at (you guessed it) La Colina, it was clear that the bullies ran the campus. I'll never forget one of them getting suspended (nothing but a three-day-vacation for many of these people) one of the teachers actually spoke about this as his "misfortune". That was the sort of nonsense that was running--and continues to run our education system into the ground.

What's the new adage for public schools per discipline?...I think it's "control and contain".

billclausen (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 5:50 p.m. (Suggest removal)

What would Starshine have to say about this?

EastBeach (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 6:24 p.m. (Suggest removal)

I can share my own story. My older brother Phinneus and I were students at the J. Edgar Hoover institute of humanities in Flatline, Oklahoma back in the 1960's. Phinneus was being harrassed by a big tough kid who wouldn't leave him alone. After all else failed, "Finny" as my brother was affectionatly known, took on his tormenter and whipped the bully. She never bothered him again.

fivedolphins (anonymous profile)
April 2, 2012 at 6:26 p.m. (Suggest removal)

People who bully others are typically, real weak themselves - with little substance or integrity in their game other than the desire to push boundaries.

Bullies get sick satisfaction in making other people's lives miserable.

Many times the target is just an instrument to oppress others, such as third party by standers, that also have to suffer abuse just by sheer observation.

Unfortunately, kids are shooting their tormentors at schools these days, so now it's everybody's problem.

Ignoring harrassment won't make the situation go away.

Faculty and Staff are chronically untrained in these matters, and are oftentimes unsympathetic to the bullied - and apparently, too often it is regarded that such conditioning is "good for the character," "boys will be boys," and "that's just the way it goes around here."

Now that teachers are getting pink slipped all over, maybe a child can get their education on their smartphones.

Kids can learn to be productive rather than endure needless interference from school yard bullying, gang violence, drugs, teacher neglect and a piss poor instruction.

Why be held captive under whatever school district brand of welfare-to-work, nanny-state-agency for adults - the, erm, "teacher's union" - who wouldn't have the maturity to sustain in the private sector or contribute sufficiently to support free enterprise.

SantaNa (anonymous profile)
April 3, 2012 at 7:45 a.m. (Suggest removal)

I agree with John Locke. BTW, a kick/knee in the balls will stop any bully cold, and with luck you might even send him to the hospital to give him some time to think about his evil ways. If it is a woman, a nose or knee will work just fine.

AZ2SB (anonymous profile)
April 3, 2012 at 6:45 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Simple translation to the above post: "The chickens have come home to roost".

I just thought of a new saying: "I survived public school".

First six years of Catholic school, second six of public school...felt much safer in Catholic school..

billclausen (anonymous profile)
April 3, 2012 at 6:48 p.m. (Suggest removal)

The "above post" was SantaNa's post. While I was writing it, I didn't realize AZ had posted.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
April 3, 2012 at 9:22 p.m. (Suggest removal)

It just occurred to me (or maybe the title was changed) the title goes" If your child were being bullied, would you advise her to:"

Shouldn't be advise *them* to...

Why the gender specification? More organized feminist politics?
Boys bleed and feel pain too.

billclausen (anonymous profile)
April 5, 2012 at 3:26 p.m. (Suggest removal)

No, "them" would be grammatically incorrect since "them" is plural and "child" is singular. The correct form would be "he or she", although "he" has been used as the generic for hundreds of years.

JohnLocke (anonymous profile)
April 19, 2012 at 8:25 a.m. (Suggest removal)

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